Sexual Fulfillment and Infidelity in Marriage

This week in our class we talked about the importance of complete fidelity in a marriage, and the importance of sexual intimacy. In the talk titled "Fulfilling Sexual Stewardship in Marriage" given by Sean E. Brotherson, he says that

"marriage is the school of love...a committed, caring marriage relationship is the best environment to learn intricacies of sexual expression and intimacy." A

s Latter-Day Saints we are taught our whole life that sex is supposed to be reserved for marriage between husband and wife. In some ways we often have feelings of anxiety before getting married when it comes to the details of sex. Oftentimes after, we are met with feelings of guilt because this is something that we have viewed as "bad" our whole lives. It is hard to suddenly turn that switch on after not being allowed to explore those feelings for so long.

If we have questions about sexual relations in marriage, we should give ourselves permission to seek those answers. I know there are so many LDS books written about this that help ease that anxiety for both the husband and wife. I also think it is important to create an environment in which your spouse feels safe enough to express to you what they want and need, and allow them to express themselves. This will strengthen that relationship between you and your spouse.


When it comes to fidelity, it is just more than physical infidelity. Fidelity includes refraining from physical contact and includes complete trust, commitment and respect between you and your spouse. Our spouse deserves to have all of our love, all of our emotional feelings and all of our devotion. Emotional infidelity happens gradually and it often is seen as innocent friendships or work relationships but quickly becomes something you never meant it to be. Because of this, I would use caution and listen to your spouse if they become uncomfortable or question your relationship with someone. Becoming defensive can be damaging but trying to see things from their point of view and trying to understand how they could be feeling how they do can make all the difference.