Same Sex Marriage

Threats to Marriage

This week in our class we read and studied about gay marriage and the opposing viewpoints. I know this is a hard topic for a lot of people, especially when you know people personally who are affected, or you yourself are one of those people. For me it is hard to have such a black and white opinion on this topic. I am a Sociology major and we talk about controversial topics like this all the time. On June 16, 2015, the U.S Supreme Court “held in a 5–4 decision that the Fourteenth Amendment requires all states to grant same-sex marriages and recognize same-sex marriages granted in other states.” This was a significant day, not only for those who were in favor of same-sex marriage, but those who opposed it as well. Those who argued in favor of the ruling stated that marriage shows commitment. If same sex couples can’t get married like heterosexual couples, then they feel that the opportunity to show their love and committment is stripped from them. They want that marriage and family just like everyone else. They also argued as to how marriage has evolved. From arranged marriages to now, where you can marry whomever you choose based on your love for that person. 

Those in favor talked about a same sex couple who adoped 3 special needs children, but they can only have one parent as their legal guardian. Because of this, if there is ever an emergency, their other parent wouldn’t be able to make decisions for them since they aren’t their legal guardian. Another point that was brought up was that if a spouse in a same sex relationship were to die, the death certificate would show no evidence of them ever having as spouse. The term they used in the court documents was “strangers in death.” This is something that I personally have never thought about and really made me think. I can’t imagine being married to the love of my life and then once they die, I am not even mentioned anywhere. There is no evidence legally that were were ever in love or together. 

Coming from a religious perspective, I was taught that God does not condone same-sex marriages. He intended marriage to be between a man and a woman. In 2014, President Nelson gave the commencement speak for BYU. He talked about a lot of things related to this. He said, 

“There is great power in a strong partnership. True partners can achieve the sum of each acting alone. With true partners, one plus one is much more than two.”

We were born male and female for a reason. Both males and females compliment each other. Males are made to provide, preside and protect. Women by nature are to be mothers. He warned that in the coming years, we will not be able to be “comfortable Christians” anymore. We can’t just go to church on Sunday and then forget who we are and what we stand for. We will have to be ready to defend the sacredness of marriage.